Many times, we all hear people talking about being positive. Do we all really get what it means being positive? I have a doubt!
Let me share with you all the mantra for being positive, and equally important is the skill to identify positiveness -- a quality that is even harder to gauge and vouch for.
In layman terms, being positive requires no prejudice and no pre-judgment. It demands for being neutral, at least at the beginning, if not overtly positive right off the bat. Then, as events/times progress by, start taking things/events/people at their face value, without jumping to conclusions on your own -- now, this is the hardest part. Why is it the hardest part? It is simply because you need to understand things and try to gauge the progress as well. The trap here is being judgmental before the right time and without having enough information. Try to gauge the prevalent intents, means and goals, and generate as many perspectives as possible, before making any sort of conclusion. Keep reminding yourself of the fact that clear communications are the way to go. When you have, at least, three parties' perspectives -- third parties', second parties' and first parties' -- you are good to go for your conclusions. A caveat here is not to conclude things completely in isolation. You must get your perspectives cross-checked and reiterated with the parties involved either covertly or overtly, as far as possible. Then is right the time to conclude by all means. After all, we ought be decisive in life, right? Concluding, per se, is not an evil thing. In fact, it is a mandatory thing to achieve and seal substantial progress. Good luck!
And, when you are evaluating others of their positiveness, make sure you have enough perspectives, backed by good enough qualitative and quantitative information, before arriving at your conclusions. Help yourself run through the above exercise. It really is a no-brainer, but, usually, is not highly practiced.
To be candid enough, I too am in the process of learning what I have just preached. :-) So, please feel free to remind me of my own exercise, whenever you observe that I am forgetting my own lesson. Thanks. See ya back, soon. :-)
Let me share with you all the mantra for being positive, and equally important is the skill to identify positiveness -- a quality that is even harder to gauge and vouch for.
In layman terms, being positive requires no prejudice and no pre-judgment. It demands for being neutral, at least at the beginning, if not overtly positive right off the bat. Then, as events/times progress by, start taking things/events/people at their face value, without jumping to conclusions on your own -- now, this is the hardest part. Why is it the hardest part? It is simply because you need to understand things and try to gauge the progress as well. The trap here is being judgmental before the right time and without having enough information. Try to gauge the prevalent intents, means and goals, and generate as many perspectives as possible, before making any sort of conclusion. Keep reminding yourself of the fact that clear communications are the way to go. When you have, at least, three parties' perspectives -- third parties', second parties' and first parties' -- you are good to go for your conclusions. A caveat here is not to conclude things completely in isolation. You must get your perspectives cross-checked and reiterated with the parties involved either covertly or overtly, as far as possible. Then is right the time to conclude by all means. After all, we ought be decisive in life, right? Concluding, per se, is not an evil thing. In fact, it is a mandatory thing to achieve and seal substantial progress. Good luck!
And, when you are evaluating others of their positiveness, make sure you have enough perspectives, backed by good enough qualitative and quantitative information, before arriving at your conclusions. Help yourself run through the above exercise. It really is a no-brainer, but, usually, is not highly practiced.
To be candid enough, I too am in the process of learning what I have just preached. :-) So, please feel free to remind me of my own exercise, whenever you observe that I am forgetting my own lesson. Thanks. See ya back, soon. :-)
